It's finally happened
We were called into Mstr A's school today, following a "behavioural incident". I knew it would happen sooner or later, but it was still pretty upsetting to get that call.
We went straight down there, alternating between worrying about what he had done, and psyching each other into righteous indignation as we had told the school before he started, and as soon as he started, and at parents evening about Mstr A's "issues", but so far no specialists have been involved.
The head was pleased at how quickly we'd come in, and he explained the situation. Mstr A has been sent to him for behaviour 5 times since September. Generally the school will call parents in after three, but considering we had explained Mstr A to them prieviously, and most of the incidents weren't that awful (2 times of "being silly" in the corridor, 1 of spitting (which I knew about) 1 of hiding at the end of break, 2 of physical "attacks" on other students.) neither of the attacks sounded that awful, although we do have a zero tolerance of physical behaviour with Mstr A, because he just doesn't understand how much is acceptable, so it's easiest to say none.
It was quite useful actually - we got a bit more info on how they have been managing his behaviour at school, and we were able to pass on our admiration for the improvement we've seen in his schooling. We also agreed that they should push forward with getting him seen by the Ed Pysch service again and all the associated professionals. Despite the fact that we were very open with the school even before we applied for the place, they still seemed worried about bringing up the issue with us - but once they got over that they said that he showed many of the signs of, surprise, surprise, Asbergers! Both the heead teacher and his class teacher (and his learning mentor) have all worked with aspie children before and were keen to tell us how they can and should go on to great academic careers:-) But it was still depressing that we were called in to the school in that way - especially as i ask Mstr A every day, and he hasn't told me about any trouble since the spitting incident ages ago:-(
We went straight down there, alternating between worrying about what he had done, and psyching each other into righteous indignation as we had told the school before he started, and as soon as he started, and at parents evening about Mstr A's "issues", but so far no specialists have been involved.
The head was pleased at how quickly we'd come in, and he explained the situation. Mstr A has been sent to him for behaviour 5 times since September. Generally the school will call parents in after three, but considering we had explained Mstr A to them prieviously, and most of the incidents weren't that awful (2 times of "being silly" in the corridor, 1 of spitting (which I knew about) 1 of hiding at the end of break, 2 of physical "attacks" on other students.) neither of the attacks sounded that awful, although we do have a zero tolerance of physical behaviour with Mstr A, because he just doesn't understand how much is acceptable, so it's easiest to say none.
It was quite useful actually - we got a bit more info on how they have been managing his behaviour at school, and we were able to pass on our admiration for the improvement we've seen in his schooling. We also agreed that they should push forward with getting him seen by the Ed Pysch service again and all the associated professionals. Despite the fact that we were very open with the school even before we applied for the place, they still seemed worried about bringing up the issue with us - but once they got over that they said that he showed many of the signs of, surprise, surprise, Asbergers! Both the heead teacher and his class teacher (and his learning mentor) have all worked with aspie children before and were keen to tell us how they can and should go on to great academic careers:-) But it was still depressing that we were called in to the school in that way - especially as i ask Mstr A every day, and he hasn't told me about any trouble since the spitting incident ages ago:-(
posted by Juggling Mother @ 9:37 pm
2 Comments:
At Friday, November 24, 2006 9:34:00 am,
Unknown said…
It sounds like they're being very positive an supportive - so there's a clear way forward, being kept in the loop by them is important and in Mstr A's case - to a point all you can do is ask - but then if there's contradictory evidence you can challenge/enquire why he didn't tell you?
Still sounds reasonabley positive - it may never be completely without incident but if that can be managed and reduced its a big achievement in itself?
At Friday, November 24, 2006 9:44:00 am,
Juggling Mother said…
It was definitely positive, and I was very pleased with the outcome. He has only been there for three months!
But then again, no parent likes to be called into the school following a "behavioural incident"
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